Happy 60th Wedding Anniversary

Saturday we spent the day in Newton celebrating with Bill and Madonna, Matt’s maternal grandparents. They’ve been married 60 wonderful years and held an open house style party to celebrate with family and friends.

I played paparazzi for the day trying to capture guests as they arrived. Check out the photo gallery here: http://jillianandmatt.com/sixtiethweddinganniversary/

There area almost 160 photos to flip through with some details of the cake and decorations at the end. Please let me know if you system has trouble loading the gallery and I’ll put up a plain version. Note that the cover photo will sometimes show up as the next photo loads.

Enjoy! And a very big congratulations to Bill and Madonna! You guys give us a lot to aspire to!

Before Summer disappears…

After what felt like the longest winter ever, summer is now flying by. Most of it has been rainy so far, but still, where has it gone!

Matt’s mom has been recovering from back surgery. It’s slow going, but she’s making progress. Next up for some hospital fun is my dad for a new ankle probably this winter and maybe Matt’s dad for a back surgery he’s been putting off. Or maybe my mom to take out a bone from her currently broken little toe. 2009 had everyone in the hospital for cancer, thankfully all are healthy and doing well now. 2010 is shaping up as the year to carve up body parts.

We are being lazy with home improvement projects this year with the biggest one being re-staining the deck. The deck looks amazing now, but the trim around the doors is still waiting for a dry day and some motivation to be sanded and painted. I’d like to get the front door painted and maybe a storm door added to the front and back doors too. I’d also love to find/have made a screen door for the back slider and my kitchen windows. And if I was really lucky we’d install a new ceiling fan for the front room to replace the one that’s been broken for 2 years. Matt says I have too many demands. Or at least too many that would involve his help. So looks like the only other thing that will be done this summer is finally painting the laundry room and our bedroom, because I can do that mostly by myself. Matt was fired from all painting duties when he used a wet brush to cut in the walls at the townhouse. I still think he did that on purpose.

We finally purchased a king size mattress. It’s a memory foam/spring hybrid and is completely decadent to sleep on. We now have room for every one to sleep sprawled out, everyone being myself, Matt, Oscar, Tito, Pandora and Dudley. A very full bed! Now we have two guest rooms, one with a twin and the other with a queen. The extra beds will be nice for the houseful of drunk people needing a place to crash we always seem to have when Bryan is home. :)

Animals are doing good in our house. Oscar had to have a minor surgery to remove a growth on his leg. He’s almost a healthy weight now too at 30lbs. Tito has settled into a routine and is potty trained if you remember to let him out. If not, he will ninja poop in the hall. Luckily he has held his bladder pretty much from 3 months on. He’s not super good with potty signals other than whining, but he also whines for attention or to get Pandora to play, so it’s sometimes hard to tell. Matt’s brother and dad added new puppies to their families. Stryker a chocolate lab and Truman a cocker spaniel. Both very cute boys.

Matt became a little nervous for our Jamaica trip this fall due to the Jamaican Drug Lord gun fight that took over parts of the country. Thankfully he turned himself in, so hopefully all will be well again by the time our flight takes off. We are both very much looking forward to a tropical vacation.

We had our dads and their wives over for a Father’s Day BBQ. Always a fun time. Everyone agreed we need to pick a weekend (where it’s not going to rain) and go camping. Unfortunately our summer has filled up with birthday parties, bachelor parties, weddings and Matt’s on call and work conference schedule.

And the last bit of news for now. My company has decided to dissolve the division I work for. Basically profitable or useful departments are being absorbed by other areas of the company and the ones that are no longer needed are being let go. The shocking news was told to us over a company wide conference call on Wednesday. I don’t have a lot more information at this point as a lot of decisions are still left to be finalized. A lot of people will be losing their jobs in the coming months, something like 3,800 people. I am pretty sure I will be one of them, but have no idea if I have 1 month or 12 months before that will happen. Matt refuses to let me be a stay at home wife, even though I’d be so good at it! So I’m brushing up on my resume and interview skills! Ugh… some stressful and very sad months ahead.

8 years later

I realized I wrote this about a month ago and never actually posted it… so here you go and I’ll back date it for when it was intended to go up:

I received a notice today that Jacob, the man that hit and killed my college boyfriend, Jason, was released from prison yesterday. He pleaded guilty to vehicular homicide in 2002, and was sentenced to 25 years. I guess he only had to serve 8? How nice for him. Jacob is 30 now; both Jason and Jacob were 21 at the time the crash occurred.

Jacob who was apparently extremely drunk and also had drugs in his system staggered away from the accident with a few bumps and scratches. He had his life paused for 8 years, owes quite a bit in restitution and I think might have had his license permanently revoked or at least suspended. Not to mention having a felony on your record seriously limits job opportunities and this is still a young guy. I don’t know much about Jacob as a person other then the stone cold expression he wore as we sat across the table from each other during my deposition. I like to think his expression was a front to get him through listening to me and the others that were summoned. I like to think he’s not a cold and uncaring person, that killing someone did affect him and will affect him the rest of his life.

For those of you that don’t know or don’t remember the story fully. It was summer of 2001 and Jason had just dropped me off at my mom’s after an evening date. He was sober, though he had just turned 21, and I bated him into ordering this disgusting blue margarita that after one sip each wasn’t touched again. It was around 2AM on his drive back to Simpson when he crossed paths with Jacob’s truck at the intersection of Oralabor and Ankeny Blvd. I never heard sirens or life flight, but I did wait up until 4AM for his call or IM to tell me he was home safe. When it never came, I figured he fell asleep or stopped into another room to say hi on the way to his. I had sent him an email before falling asleep and that’s how his parents and the school figured out why he was in Ankeny that night.

This is what I recall from bits and pieces different people told me about the accident.  It’s assumed that Jacob ran a red light, but it’s unclear which lane Jason started in as the impact pushed his car over the median. His seat was pushed under the passengers seat with the driver’s side door being crushed in an incredible amount. You can see that in the pictures. 

A nurse headed to her early morning shift came upon the scene and called for help. I was told Jacob was dazed and pacing around at this point. The nurse held Jason’s hand and talked to him until help arrived. I was told it took paramedics some 45 minutes just to cut the car enough to get him out of it. Someone at school that was working as an EMT said they used the tape from his rescue to help improve training. It didn’t matter though, although he was still alive, his brain had been slammed around in his skull so hard he was gone. He had plenty of other internal injuries as well. They took him off life support after several hours of trying to bring him back. Jason had been preparing to take the LSAT wanting to go to Drake Law School and follow in his stepdad’s career choice. He was active in his fraternity and had been working as an R.A. over the summer. We were one of those on again off again couples, as a lot of relationships are in college, not always treating each other the best. But even though I only had the chance to know him for 2 short but very full years, he was and will always be someone very special to me. His mom was kind enough at the funeral to say she knew he felt the same for me.

My thoughts are definitely with Colleen, Jason’s mom, her only child. It strikes me to think this Mother’s Day Jacob’s mom is probably counting her blessings that her son is finally able to celebrate at home with her again. Jason’s mom however is feeling quite differently. I hope Jacob never forgets that.

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